Breakups are the worst: first, you have the person you loved turning into a stranger overnight, then you've got the conflicting feelings, public crying, sleepless nights. Technology, while under the guise of bringing us together, has made it virtually impossible to get out alive, with the constant reminders of your life together on every social site you visit.

So, what is a bitch to do, if she is to make it through these times? Here are some strategies, from me, personal blogging veteran, social media dork and survivor of multiple heartbreaks:

1. Cut the cord. De-friend immediately. Even if you think you want to "stay friends", at the beginning, if you're like most people, you can not be "friends" after a breakup. My ex took me off his friends list first, I freaked out and made him add me back only to remove him a week later when I realized it was too easy to click through to his profile and agonize over the messages people were leaving him.

Make it easier on yourself and de-friend, un-follow, remove. You can always add them back later. It also helps to delete their friends that were never really yours; but this is up to the situation. I got rid of all my ex's friends on Myspace and never looked back.

2. Do not e-stalk. The temptation will be stronger than anything. You will find yourself obsessing and reading too much into every thing they post. A good trick is to give yourself a date, far in the future, in which you are allowed to lurk, google, zabasearch, and snoop to your heart's content. But right now, when your nerves are raw, looking at them online will just make just this harder. Do not do it. Trust me: your ex is not going to ask you to get back together via a Facebook status message. If they want to contact you, they already know a more direct way.

3. Archive and file away. Make those pictures on Flickr private, archive away all of the emails, all of the chats. If they had anything on your computer, get rid of it, especially if they had passwords saved (again, no snooping allowed!). Get all of it out of your face. I recommend archiving rather than deleting because I'm a big believer in keeping things from relationships, so years down the line, you can remind yourself what a hot, saucy bitch you were and how much love you had.

4. Give yourself the right to be a private person -- too often, those of us who use this technology feel that we always have to share and be a part of the conversation; you don't. During my last breakup, I locked my Twitter updates because I knew the person I was seeing was keeping tabs on me that way.  I don't owe my lurkers anything and neither do you. If you need to take a break from posting, do it. Your followers and friends will understand.

If anything, I've found during my times of heartache, that people on my friends lists are incredibly supportive, even those I barely know. Everyone can relate to a good sad story of love gone wrong. While social networking can make it harder to move on with all its incessant documentation, the above tips should make it just a little easier to get through your breakup.